How healthy is Jacomijn Vlamings?
by Eduard Schaepman, on 25 Mar 2021
This week Jacomijn Vlamings, performance coach, tells a special story. After a fine, sporty start in Breda, her life took a different turn when she moved to the Gooi region. Unprocessed traumatic experiences and setbacks caused her to develop an alcohol and drug addiction. Around her 40th birthday, she did everything she could to overcome her problems. Now she feels better than ever, and helps others to get the best out of themselves.
Jacomijn grew up in Breda, where she always played hockey and golf. She was even pretty good at the latter, and her weekends were filled with matches. She was talented: she even made the Dutch selection and trained at Papendal when she was 12 years old. But when she was 16, her parents decided to split up after a few turbulent years, and Jacomijn moved with her mother to 't Gooi. In the middle of puberty, she found herself in a completely different environment - with the necessary impact. After six months of travelling up and down to Breda for golf weekends, the sport got diluted and she exchanged the golf course for the hockey field in Laren. Getting her gymnasium diploma was not without its struggles, and at university things did not go the way she wanted either. Now, as a performance coach and with the necessary knowledge and experience she has gained, she understands very well why. 'I was suffering from the aftermath of traumatic events from my youth, and the impact of the move. All at once you lose your security, a familiar environment with friends. That makes the situation even more stressful. People with burnouts also often have trouble concentrating, and I suffered from that too. But you don't realise it at the time.
Jacomijn tried both dentistry and psychology, but both were difficult. She decided to try working life, and met the father of her two children while working as an interior designer. But the experiences of her childhood remained unresolved, and her marriage was not going well either. This resulted in alcohol and drug abuse between the ages of 30 and 40, after which she put a stop to it with the help of in-patient treatment. First for a few weeks in Maastricht, then for six months in Scotland. She worked very hard on herself and now says that, although it was terrifying, it was the best decision of her life. When she came back from the clinic, she changed her life, because even though you've had six months of therapy, you're not there yet when you have to stand on your own two feet again. She turned her life around, got divorced and studied personal development, especially the mind.
Nothing is impossible
With so much experience, she now helps others, especially artists and entrepreneurs who have to deal with stressful situations. Last year in London, she took a course in a form of hypnotherapy in which the cause of whatever complaint you are experiencing is 'removed' from your brain. It all has to do with neurological connections. Nothing is impossible, just look at me', Jacomijn says to her clients. Radiantly she adds that she feels 'happier than ever'. She gets energy from what she does, and wants to improve herself (sometimes a bit obsessively, she admits).
Stop labelling situations
But maybe that happy feeling also has to do with her lifestyle: with 20 minutes of yoga every day, tabata (HIIT training of about 4-5 minutes) three times a week and a good walk every now and then, she stays fit. She eats mainly vegetable matter, with the occasional egg or protein powder for protein, multivitamins and fish oil, and absolutely no sugars, because that makes her body protest. Alcohol, of course, is out of the question, but fortunately she no longer needs it. She no longer experiences stress, because she has stopped labelling situations - a flat tyre is not necessarily a disaster, but it will be anyway if you think about it like that.
Health a 9, happiness a 9.5
She gives her health a 9, and her happiness a 9, maybe even a 9.5, and she says she feels 'super happy'. Her tip is to start communicating with yourself differently: if you always think 'I have to exercise', 'I have to eat healthy', etc, then it becomes a very negative experience. When you think 'I want to work out', 'I want to eat healthy', then you are already one step ahead.
Watch the whole episode this afternoon on https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLTsjbI2Zjcxwo8Tyc_7_FQ?app=desktop or listen to the podcast on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/72j2FSBuqOenNtGqY6KRXh?si=zlnYmYdzTmqQtUF5J3GUCA